Wednesday, December 17, 2014

It Starts with Me..And You

I was talking to my mom the other day about body image and how focused woman are on the wrong things. Sizes and weight--numbers rather than health--are a major focus among women. There are many ideal numbers thrown at us through a number of sources, but of course we choose our own numbers, too. When I'm this size, I will be okay with myself. When I am back to this weight, I will do something special for myself. Etc. Etc.

I was expressing that the focus is on the wrong place and it needs to change. My mom told me that it never would. I could maybe change it for myself, but I could never do anything about it for the world at large.

I've been thinking about that and while I think my mom is a little right, I also think she's a little wrong. (Sorry Mom!) I don't think there's enough propaganda in the world that could convince women to change their minds and accept themselves. You can't preach it enough to hit everyone. That part is true. But I do feel there is a way to start making a change.

Living in confidence. I wonder how much more comfortable I would be in my own skin if the women around me (even the ones I know now) were more comfortable in their own skin.
I remember saying to Zach once, "So and so is curvy, but I really like her body."
 Zach replied, "Yeah? Well then you should like yours, too. You have curves like that."
And I had the biggest "aha" moment, "I think I would if I knew she was okay with hers. I know for a fact that she's currently trying to lose weight and that makes me feel like I should be, too." (This conversation took place prior to my pregnancy weight gain.)

 I've shared this quote from Marianne Williamson so many times, but contains so much truth. I'll just share this line today, "And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

let your light shine

Have you ever seen a woman with a body that didn't fit the normal social standards for beautiful or sexy (perhaps she's curvy or very thin) who had a whole lot of confidence? I have met those women in my life and every time I am around them I feel inspired. I feel drawn to their confidence. I want to get some of that for myself.

I suppose I've been waiting for other women to take the lead. Other women to tell me that it's okay to love myself no matter what. That I can feel good about myself no matter what. But they're not. And I don't have time to wait for the change, I want to make the change.

I make a commitment today to work on developing confidence. For myself, for my daughter, and for every woman I come in contact with.

Do you agree? Have you ever met a woman with confidence that is contagious? Do you think if the world were full of more confident women, it would create a wave of confidence?

(I will be starting a Confessions of a Confident Woman series on my blog in January. Keep an eye out for those posts and more information on how you can be involved.)

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